It happened Tuesday—my two youngest made their own lunches AND fed themselves breakfast. Boom!
This moment of parental ecstasy was met with equal part shock—as the sheer force of what took place ignited an Armageddon-level explosion of peanut butter smears, Cheerios, and a co-existing drive to morning-craft—leaving a trail of cut up paper and general child debris, in not one, but three adjoining rooms. There will be after-school repercussions and mother-induced aftershocks: there will be order.
Until then, I will load laundry and check Netflix—which seems to have extrapolated from my morning and decided that I am singularly interested in Armageddon-themed video. I can only assume this takeover is due to my husband’s zombie love and so I have no other recourse but to fight back with a steady stream of Bridget Jones’ Diary—all of them, six seasons of Sex and the City, and Schitt’s Creek—again. He has it coming.
It’s come to this, our lives tightened to a small, repetitive loop—geographically contained. Able to travel to Mars through camera-strapped rovers and into people’s homes if only online and of course, there's Netflix spousal warfare.
We’re forced into iterative interactions and communication with the same people and much of it, online.
And so, with zoom meetings and virtual school, I’ve come to appreciate these real windows into people’s lives.
We see a couch dressed up in piles of laundry, another beard, a mom reaching from her computer to her child’s to sort out the sound. We’re living these adjacent lives and it somehow connects my experience to a greater one being felt by so many beyond my five blocks of life.
With this extended togetherness, it’s hard sometimes to know how to create and take space for ourselves and for our kids to do the same. Learning to communicate our needs and have them met, may be the secret to adding more peace into our days. I certainly have not mastered this—yet.
I spoke with integrative coach Joanne Heyman about just this: how important it is for us to be able to understand what fuels us, learn to communicate what we need with people at work and at home, and then how to build resilience throughout it all.
Joanne is an expert in this field and will be teaching a series of five workshops over the next months. We’re starting with two: building resilience in uncertain times and communicating brilliantly.
Registration is now open with a limited number of seats.
I hope to see you—and into your homes—for these wellness workshops that build understanding and skills that are truly foundational in bringing confidence and gentle honesty to our interactions.
Until then, I will leave you with 68 episodes of peeping into celebrity homes with Vogue’s series: 73 Questions.
What got me hooked was obviously 73 Questions with Dan Levy of Schitt’s Creek who is pure sweetness. It is must-watch TV, that is, if you’re looking for 14 minutes and 44 seconds of joy. Which these days, who isn’t? I know the Marsh family is—
(Photo by Mary Turner in the New York Times)
They are all about cultivating joy in these uncertain times—a modern-day Von Trapp parody troop streaming from their living room to yours.
Riffing off known tunes, they’ve found this creative outlet and tons of fans—me amongst them.
Enjoy this song, it'll have you laughing and fawning over how adorable they all are.
Until next week, stay cozy at hōm—Sandra